Best Shoes For Your Body Type

Pick the right style, and all eyes will be on your killer legs.

Ahhh fall. It's my favorite time of year. Crisp weather, pretty colors and the best excuse to buy those gorgeous fall shoes I have my eyes on right now.

However, we aren't billionaires or celebrities (nor do we have little elves custom-making shoes for us, at least not until Christmas). So we have to choose wisely when we're shoe shopping. Which is easier said than done, since it's soo hard to find something that works with your unique leg shape. Sure, those luxurious suede boots look good on the shelf, but you know the second you put them on whether or not they are right for you.

To make our fall shoe shopping a little bit easier, I spoke to Aly Scott, founder of StyleChic, who said "wedge short booties, anything with studs, neutral/nude anything, fringe boots, penny loafers or oxfords, plums and any shade of brown" are totally on trend for fall.

She gave me some expert dos and don'ts when it comes to finding the best shoes for your body type, and she even helped me target some of the most common problem areas.  read more...

Too Much Tolerance Can Be A Bad Thing

You may not know it, but you have a tolerance meter -- an internal gauge that tells you when enough is enough. The problem for many is that their tolerance meter is set too high -- that they put up with far too much for far too long. We stay at jobs we hate because it is "comfortable enough," and because changing requires so much more energy. We'll endure critical bosses who never have nice things to say about us because we tell ourselves that they're not "that bad." We'll live paycheck to paycheck for years because we fool ourselves into thinking it's the "best we can do." 

It is easy to fall into the mental trap of mediocrity. Because it doesn't take much to get by, we grow complacent. We stop growing and seeking challenges. We don't push ourselves to succeed. We cultivate a lifestyle well below our potential, but one that is just good enough that it doesn't require much challenge or action.  read more...

5 Ways To Beat Your Shopping Addiction

Alcohol, crack and heroin are known to be highly addictive, but can something as innocuous as shopping be addictive? 

I have no doubt shopping can become addictive and destructive. I've worked with people from vastly different backgrounds who have become shopaholics -- from "sudden wealth" recipients who've come into millions, to the unemployed and destitute who cannot control their shopping addiction. Dr. Drew recently taped an episode on the Ricki Lake Show where he spoke to a young woman who was a self-diagnosed shopaholic. Her shopping addiction can provide valuable lessons for the rest of us.

First, it's important to understand what doesn't work. A shopping addiction is not a disease of intellect; it's a disease of emotion. Unfortunately, most family members, along with mental health and financial "experts," make things worse by focusing on the two areas that usually lead to even more shopping: shame and logic. What's wrong with you?! Don't you know better? How can you be so self-centered and selfish? Trying to use logic -- if you spend too much, you won't have money to make the car payment -- tends to be just as ineffective.  read more...